All across the globe millions of LGBTQ people have coming out on their minds. Either they have come out; are preparing to come out; have decided it not safe to come out; or are vacillating some place on the spectrum of coming out. A few years ago I did a study in Turkey with men who were making decisions about coming out. Our study had three cultural cohorts. These were men from Brazil, Turkey and Chicago. This is what we learned from them: 1) There is a costs-benefits a